…there are two issues. One is creedal arrogance. In whatever form it comes or from whomever it emanates, it is repugnant even if I agree with the creed. That is because, aside from matters of the meaning and interpretation of the sacred text, projections of certainty become projectiles of heartlessness when hurled at people looking for help. We should feel offended when a caretaker acts like an undertaker, burying people under a scriptural mudslide.
The second issue is always my own heart, however. It is instinctive to want to fight fire with fire. Indeed, that is my nature. If someone else acts offensively, doesn’t that person deserve to be acted upon offensively? The problem, as Father Nouwen points out, is that we are all kin. We are of the anthropological genus Homo sapiens. Spiritually, we are all sinners. Our only saving grace is really not ours, but is a grace-gift given to us because our Creator is a God not strait-jacketed by good doctrine. He leaks outside creedal pronouncements in order to perpetuate relationship with his creation. The blessing of ongoing relationship is a gift too good to turn down. [emphasis added.]